Get Photo-Ready Dating service How About We found that users who uploaded at least three photos received twice as many messages as those who had just one.
Upload seven, instructs Davis, who actually : "(1) close-up, (2) full-length, (3) close-up, (4) action shot, (5) full-length, (6) close-up, (7) action shot." Webb praises one sought-after woman's photo because "her hair and makeup didn't look overdone, but she had definitely spent time on both." In a study by the University of Rochester, women wearing red were found to be more attractive—yes, that old chestnut—and OKCupid reports that women get the most messages when their expression is flirty and their gaze is directed at the camera.
(Men do best when looking slightly off camera.) Webb and Davis advocate flashing a shoulder or a little cleavage—and both stress the importance of good lighting.
Play the Field"It's important to be in more than one community," Davis says."It's like being in more than one social circle." She suggests joining one mainstream site (say, e Harmony or Match.com) as well as one niche service, such as Cupidtino, which brings Apple-product obsessives together, or the unapologetically elitist Sparkology (the site's men—but not its women! "Changing sites from time to time, and then revisiting, is the best strategy," says Davis. Ace Your Profile"Your user name is going to inspire them to click," says Davis, who suggests a terminology mash-up (e.g., Sporty Smile)."Never include your name or even initials." Keep your About Me section positive and fun, the way you'd ideally come across at a cocktail party.At first, Webb thought that women who used opening lines such as "I'm a fun-loving girl that enjoys…" and "I'm a laid-back girl who wants…" were dumbing down.But such lightweight openers are disarming, approachable.
"If someone said to you 'I'm uncomplicated, generally in a happy mood, and I like to do stuff,' you'd want to hang out with him or her, right?" Webb found that the most successful profiles were purposefully casual, under 500 words, and just detailed enough—specific, but not to the point of alienating someone ("like" HBO dramas, but don't zero in on ). Davis cites psychological studies that say the mind can easily grasp groups of three: "So stick to three interests, three words to describe your ideal match, or three favorite movies." Webb advises against mentioning your job, using foreign words, or referring to yourself in the third person.And save the sarcasm: "Instead of seeming witty and clever, those women just sounded angry."3.At 30, after a breakup that involved spotting her boyfriend draped around another woman, digital strategist Amy Webb decided to try meeting men online.And she did: On JDate, Match.com, and e Harmony, she met guys who were six inches shorter or 30 pounds heavier than advertised; who picked expensive restaurants and passed the check to her; and who told her, mid drink, that they were married.One night, after another bad match and a solo bottle of wine, Webb rejoined JDate—this time posing as a man, to check out her competition. Webb crafted 10 male profiles so perfect they had to be fake (sample code name: Jewish Doc1000) to gather data: what the site's most popular women looked like, which keywords they used, how they timed their messages.