But when those unique dating situations suddenly become your present reality, you still feel like a deer caught in headlights no matter how many books about polyamory or open relationships you may have read.
I’ve been dating a guy I met online for almost six months, but he won’t delete his online dating profile.
Given how much time we spend together, it’s really difficult for me to make a case against him keeping his online dating profile up if his ridiculousness of a truth is, in fact, a truth at all.
If any other girl came to me with the same dilemma, I’d tell her the exact same thing dating expert Evan Marc Katz would say.
He’s not that into you if he’s still looking at other women online. Katz makes a great point in one of his blog posts about this very dating dilemma online. There is simply no viable, reasonable, acceptable response he can make – even if, somehow, he has not met ANY new women since “committing” to you,” argues Katz.
It’s not that he doesn’t want to keep spending time with you, it just means that he wants to keep his options open until someone he’s more into comes along. A man doesn’t use online dating for anything other than it’s intended purpose – to meet new women. The dating expert goes on to say that while there is constant temptation to always be trading up, “the whole point of dating – for most of us, anyway – is to find one person that makes you want to quit altogether.” I honestly thought I had found that person, especially when he finally agreed to delete his online dating profile. 10 minutes of weekly entertainment isn’t worth losing endless hours of entertainment from you,” he said.
Here’s how Katz breaks it down in layman’s terms: “I don’t go to Amazon to browse books. But then he did a complete 360 less than 24 hours later.
“We need to talk.” Four words no man or woman ever wants to hear at any point during their relationship.
Nothing amazing has ever come out of those four words.
My heart sank as the truth I had already known finally started to come out. A man can frame it any way he likes, but the simple truth is that a man doesn’t keep his dating profile up unless he wants to keep his options open.
He wants to have the best of both worlds — that of being single, and that of being in a relationship – which now leaves us at the point of either breaking up or renegotiating the terms of our relationship.
When you meet someone online and you start spending more and more time together, the last thing you’re thinking about is your online dating profile, let alone updating or deleting it.
After all, you don’t want to jinx the relationship before it even has a chance to start.
In the meanwhile, you might still get those email alerts when a new match has arrived.