This is one of those classic "What NOT to do on a date" stories! You really don't want to have a bad date and be the subject of a what not to do on a date report! Usually, I like to talk with a man via email and phone calls for a bit before meeting him in person.
I found myself really looking forward to a nice evening out -- a nice dinner, maybe a walk along the river downtown, maybe even drinks and dancing. So if you act like a gentleman and treat your date as a lady, you will really stand out from the rest.By the time I was ready to leave, I was really jazzed about the evening. We don't expect to be told we have to pay our own way until we prove our worth! You can discuss it with us first or surprise us, but the guy leads the dance. Please use simple manners at the table, like your mother taught you. There's an old saying that men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears. We're interested in you or we wouldn't have gone out with you. And, um, we really don't want to hear about the ex who ran around on you, took all your money, and god knows what else! A lot of times we get the message that we're not smart enough, or skinny enough, or sexy enough, or [__fill in the blank__] enough.Since he was only in town one night, he hadn't bothered to rent a car. OK, I can understand that; I'll just pick him up at the hotel lobby. We expect you to honor our needs, including that to privacy. Show us you respect us and think we're special to you. You shouldn't walk all over us, but please have a plan. Stopping by the market for a bouquet really gets our attention. Not all men do that, but enough do that it's discouraging.I had been sure to tell him I'd meet him in the lobby. Casual, shmasual, that's "working on the car" clothes! He says hi, nods his head at me, and walks out to the car expecting me to follow. We get in the car and try to figure out where to go while we're moving. Now if you're dating someone who's "out and proud," I suppose it'd be OK to talk openly about her history, but not all of us are "out and proud." Most of us just want to live quietly, to be just another woman. Show us you think enough of us to have planned a nice evening for us. We've already put a lot of thought and energy into looking nice for you and wondering what nice things are in store for us. A man who treats me with respect, with honor, who shows me he's interested in the whole me, really gets my attention! Maybe, just maybe, he'll turn out to be "the one." Oh, and guys? The day after this disaster of a date I sent an email to all the local TS women I know, and even to the local gender group, which picked up the TVs and DQs as well.There are innumerable sites that offer a platform to young hearts yearning for some love and warmth in their lives. Not everyone gets partners through online dating and be made an eternal love story. You may look around, many must have tried it, but hardly anyone has got a successful online love story. Lack of durability One big question of dating online is how long can it last?
Yes, it is a good thing, as it is modern, instant and liberal. A long distance relationship can be really troublesome.Not everyone is lucky enough to find a date from their own city.Even if you do, ofcourse you first interact online and then meet. For, in these bonds, no real meetings and interactions takes place at the primary level. We bond when we meet someone over a period of time, spend time talking together and being with each other in person. You may be very greatly bonded with someone you have hardly met. It involves not just emotional but also physical, mental and spiritual space.No way I'm going to meet some guy in his hotel room; I'm not that kind of girl! He tells me he wants to stay close to the hotel (well, the river walk's out), so I tell him what restaurants are close and he chooses Mimi's. He plunks his butt down on a chair and asks for menus! I told them the name of this idiot and exactly what he did. I want him to be an oysvorf, an outcast -- as unwelcome as Osama bin Laden at a B'nai Brith meeting!Ok, that's a nice place -- good food, nice atmosphere -- maybe the night will turn out OK. As we're ordering he says, "Oh, you don't mind going dutch, go you? If he doesn't think I'm good enough company to at least buy my dinner, then I don't want his damned money! Homepage for Transgender & Transexual Dating Ask a Girl for a Date: Your First Email to a TS Girl Bad Date Story: What a Putz!At the restaurant, I have to wait until he figures out he should open the door -- not a good sign. Suddenly he turns to me, "Would you like to sit at the bar? I always go dutch until I decide whether I like the girl." It's all I can do to keep my jaw from dropping! It's only including tip, but I'm on a very fixed income, and this is a big hit to my budget. And I'm here; to leave would be rude and he'd be stranded -- and I'm better than that! He tells me some woman he knows in town has told him about The Mercantile and that "all the TS girls go there." I told him I didn't. What NOT to do on a Date Bisexual Guys & the Transsexual Female Can't Find a Girlfriend? Consider a Transsexual Woman Dating a Transwoman: My Adventures & Some Advice Great Boyfriend: Admirers & TS Girls, a TS Chatroom Survey Having Sex With a Transsexual Woman: How to Make Love With the Transsexual Female Helpful Hints to Meeting a Trans Girl How to Date the Pre-Op Transsexual Woman Jerry Springer Show: Their Invitation to Appear in a Transsexual Episode Male Bashing: Man Bashing Behavior is Unacceptable in Chat MTF Transsexual: Growth as a Woman Post-Op Transsexual: A Post-Op TS Need Not be Dateless Pre-Op TS in the Boyfriend Hunt Romance Online: An Emotional Survival Guide Stood Up on a Date: It's Not a Good Feeling T-Girls as Women: Your T-Girl Should be a Happy Girl TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us Transgender Dating: Less Than a Woman?